Monday, 16 August 2010
No limit to grief
This past weekend and week have been painful reminders of how bereavement effects those left behind. I visited my grandma, who will be 90 next year. She misses my father so much, due to the early death of my grandfather, my dad helped bring up his younger sisters. He was a key part of her life that's missing now, there's not a simple fix that exists to fill that gap.
Another friend has lost her father this week, I struggled to at first find words of comfort, my own father's death seemed so raw, that I didn't want to impose my own feelings of grief with hers. It didn't seem right that I have had three years to deal with it while she is suffering now. It made me realise that no matter the length of time, it doesn't determine how long you will grieve, anyone who tells you different - ignore them.
Sorry for such a downbeat post, sometimes writing down words than expressing them is somehow easier.